#ShapermintLove Code: Get Confidence in Friendship & Love

ShapermintLove Code

We pride ourselves on changing the conversation around shapewear, helping women the world over to wear it loud and proud! But, being a Shapermint Gal is about waaaay more than wearing the comfiest undies on the planet!

Do you remember the Shapewear Code? It’s where we realized that for women to feel empowered they must first have the support of their sisters!

Feeling like a fabulous friend or first-class lover doesn’t come naturally to all of us.

And even those who are blessed with an early understanding of the rules of engagement may admit that they don’t always get it right.

Growing up, most of us learned the hard way how to be a good lover or a friend. Wouldn’t life have been easier if we had a code to live by? So, as the conversation about Valentine’s Day hots up, we took inspiration from the Shapewear Code and laid down 5 rules Shapermint Gals can follow to get confidence in friendship and love.

Rule 1: Embrace the ugly

Can’t accept me at my worst? Then you don’t deserve me at my best.

Rule 1: Embrace the ugly

It’s easy to support someone when they’re at their best, but what about when they’re at their worst? We believe friends support each other when the going gets tough – warts and all! We’ve all experienced periods of low mood, fear, jealousy and other emotions that trigger bad behavior. Crappy friends will run at the first sign that something is off, whereas the best ones stick around when things get hard to remind you of the person you can be when you’re full of confidence.

Rule 2: Listen

Hear with your ears, but listen with your heart.

Rule 2: Listen

In “Listen” a 2006 release from the motion picture Dreamgirls, Beyoncé sings “Oh, the time has come for my dreams to be heard. They will not be pushed aside and turned…” Reminding us that we each have a voice that deserves to be heard. But finding our voice and being confident enough to use it isn’t always easy. We believe good friends put aside what they think is best and allow the other person to live their truth. It’s a message of acceptance – we don’t necessarily have to like it, but accepting the other person for who they are by listening to their truth instead of enforcing ours makes for an ever-lasting relationship.

Rule 3: Offer Comfort

Genuine kindness is no ordinary act, but a gift of rare beauty.

Rule 3: Offer Comfort

Friends are one thing, but showing kindness to a stranger in their time of need marks you out as someone truly beautiful. Offering a kind word, a shoulder to cry on, or extending a hand to someone who is struggling can warm someone’s soul when they need it most. We believe women should lift each other up, especially when they have forgotten how to fly. Whether she’s your relative, bestie, or a woman on a park bench, help her regain her confidence when she needs it most, that’s what sets us shapewear women apart.

Rule 4: Always tell the truth even if it hurts

Lies are like kindling stacked for a fire.

Rule 4: Always tell the truth even if it hurts

At one time or another, we’ve all told little white lies to our loved ones to protect their feelings. We don’t need to sweat the small stuff. But holding on to lies, secrets, or emotions can cause bigger upset if not dealt with immediately. We believe in empowering women above all else. The thing is, if we’re not aware of a problem, we can’t be empowered to overcome it. The best relationships are built on trust, and you can’t have that without honesty. It may hurt, to tell the truth initially, but healing will come and that is far better than allowing a wound to fester.

Rule 5: Don’t be Jelly

Don’t compare your chapter one to someone else’s chapter 20.

Rule 5: Don’t be Jelly

Jealousy of our loved ones, other women, and celebrities is often like wearing a veil – our vision is obscured and our perception of reality altered because of it. When we compare ourselves to others, we often don’t see the whole truth. Comparison is also a sure-fire way to kill your confidence! We’re each treading our own path and although it may seem like someone has it easier than you, or achieved what you want without effort, it’s likely they overcame their version of slaying internal dragons to get where they are. We believe we can learn a lot from women who have been where we want to go. Instead of hiding behind jealousy and allowing bitterness to get in the way of what could be an incredible friendship, lean into it and ask “what can you teach me?” The answer may surprise you!